Monday, 28 October 2013

END

Assalamualaikum ~ 

Insya'Allah I'm gonna a put an end to this blog. Moving over to Wordpress since many berhijrah there. Mehehe

Have alrd created but not activated yet. It's still the same URL except without the hyphen . 

madforflowers.wordpress.com

Insya'Allah will activate it in a week or two weeks time. (Or maybe today....aiiiiing~) 

Till then, illaliqa' ❤️

Sunday, 27 October 2013

Pregnancy symptoms - early signs of preganancy

Pregnancy symptoms differ from woman to woman and pregnancy to pregnancy; however, one of the most significant pregnancy symptoms is a delayed or missed period.

Understanding the signs and symptoms of pregnancy is important because each symptom may be related to something other than pregnancy. You may experience signs or symptoms of pregnancy within a week of conception. However, it is possible you may not experience any symptoms for a few weeks.

What are Early Pregnancy Symptoms to Watch For?

Symptoms to watch for early on include a missed period, headaches,tender breasts, nausea and lower backaches. If you have been sexually active and are experiencing any of these symptoms, it is important to take a pregnancy test.  Are you experiencingmorning sickness – are you pregnant or experiencing something else?

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First Sign of Pregnancy: Spotting

Implantation bleeding can be one of the earliest pregnancy symptoms. About 6-12 days after conception, the embryo implants itself into the uterine wall. Some women will experience spotting as well as some cramping. Some women do not even notice this so don’t worry if you are trying to get pregnant and don’t see it – you could still be pregnant.

Other Explanations: Actual menstruation, altered menstruation, changes in birth control pill, infection, or abrasion from intercourse.

First Sign of Pregnancy: Delay/Difference in Menstruation:

A delayed or missed period is the most common pregnancy symptom leading a woman to test for pregnancy. When you become pregnant, your next period should be missed. However, some women can bleed while they are pregnant, but typically this bleeding will be shorter or lighter than a normal period.

Other Explanations: Excessive weight gain/loss, fatigue, hormonal problems, tension, stress, ceasing to take the birth control pill, illness or breastfeeding.

Swollen/Tender Breasts:

Swollen or tender breasts is a pregnancy symptom which may begin as early as 1-2 weeks after conception. Women may notice changes in their breasts; they may be tender to the touch, sore, or swollen.

Other Explanations: Hormonal imbalance, birth control pills, impending menstruation (PMS) can also cause your breasts to be swollen or tender.

Fatigue/Tiredness:

Feeling fatigued or more tired is a pregnancy symptom which can also start as early as the first week after conception.

Other Explanations: Stress, exhaustion, depression, common cold or flu, or other illnesses can also leave you feeling tired or fatigued.

Nausea/Morning Sickness:

This well known pregnancy symptom will often show up between 2-8 weeks after conception. Some women are fortunate to not deal with morning sickness at all, while others will feel nauseous throughout most of their pregnancy.  If you are experiencing morning sickness at all, take a look at our articles on morning sickness to learn how to manage it better.

Other Explanations: Food poisoning, stress, change in hormonal birth control method or other stomach disorders can also cause you to feel queasy.

Backaches:

Lower backaches may be a symptom that occurs early in pregnancy; however, it is common to experience a dull backache throughout pregnancy.

Other Explanations: Impending menstruation, stress, other back problems, and physical or mental strains.

Headaches:

The sudden rise of hormones in your body can cause you to have headaches early in pregnancy.

Other Explanations: Dehydration, caffeine withdrawal, impending menstruation, eye strain, or other ailments can be the source of frequent or chronic headaches.

Frequent Urination:

Around 6-8 weeks after conception, you may find yourself making a few extra trips to the bathroom.

Other Explanations: Urinary tract infection, diabetes, increasing liquid intake, or taking excessive diuretics.

Darkening of Areolas:

If you are pregnant, the skin around your nipples may get darker.

Other Explanations: Hormonal imbalance unrelated to pregnancy or may be a leftover effect from a previous pregnancy.

Food Cravings or Food Aversions:

While you may not have a strong desire to eat pickles and ice cream, many women will feel cravings for certain foods when they are pregnant. This can last throughout your entire pregnancy. Some women develop adversions to certain types of food early in pregnancy and this too can last for the next 9 months.

Other Explanations: Poor diet, lack of a certain nutrient, stress, depression, illness or impending menstruation.



And nope, I'm not pregnant yet. But this is so useful that I just have to post it. 

Via American pregnancy association 

Thursday, 24 October 2013

Belajar Langsung dari guru

Pada dasarnya belajar itu harus dengan cara mendengar langsung dari para guru, duduk bersama mereka,dan mendengarkan langsung dari mulut mereka, bukan belajar sendiri dari kitab. Karena belajar langsung dari guru adalah mengambil nasab ilmu dari pembawa nasab ilmu yg berakal yaitu sang guru. Adapun kalau belajar dari kitab,kitab itu hanyalah bende mati. Maka bagaimana mungkin nasab ilmunya bisa bersambung?

Ini juga perkara yang harus diperhatikan oleh para penuntut ilmu, yaitu belajar dari seorang guru. Karena, itu bisa menghasilkan dua faidah atau lebih. Yaitu:

Pertama, menyingkat waktu. Daripada seorang murid harus membolak-balik isi kitab dan melihat mana pendapat yang lebih rajih dan apa sebab kerajihannya? Juga mana pendapat yang lemah dan apa sebab kelemahannya? Namun, jika belajar dari seorang guru,sudah merupakan "makanan matang". Seorang guru tinggal berkata: "Para ulama dalam masalah ini berbeda pendapat menjadi dua pendapat atau tiga atau lebih,yang lebih rajih dalah pendapat yang ini dengan dalil begini.Cara ini lebih bermanfaat bagi seorang murid"

Kedua,bisa cepat faham.Seseorang apabila membaca dengan bimbingan guru akan bisa cepat faham dibandingkan dengan membaca kitab sendiri.Karena jika ia membaca sendiri,mungkin butuh mengulangi satu alenia empat atau lima kali bahkan mungkin saja bisa salah dalam memahaminya.

Tiga,adanya hubungan antara murid dan guru,dan ini merupakan hubungan antara ahli ilmu dari yang kecil sampai yang besar.

Inilah beberapa faidah belajar dengan bimbingan guru.Namun sebagaimana yang telah kami sebutkan terdahulu bahwa wajib bagi seorang murid untuk memilih guru dari kalangan para ulama yang mumpuni keilmuannya lagi mempunyai amanah.Dalam artian,ilmunya bukan sekedar pas-pasan namun benar-benar mengetahui ilmunya.Juga jika sang guru ahli ibadah,akan bisa ditiru oleh muridnya.

Ada sebuah ungkapan:"Barang siapa yang memasuki suatu bidang ilmu seorang diri,dia akan keluar juga seorang diri."Maksudnya,barang siapa yang mempelajari ilmu tanpa guru,ia akan keluar tanpa ilmu.Karena ilmu adalah sebuah bidang keahlian yang butuh pada ahlinya,maka harus dipelajari dari ahlinya yang mumpuni.

Ini sebuah ungkapan yang benar,juga masih ada ungkapan lainnya,yaitu:"Barang siapa yang menjadikan kitab sebagai petunjuknya,maka salahnya lebih banyak daripada benarnya."Inilah yang sering terjadi.Meskipun ada ,jarang seseorang yang benar-benar bersungguh-sungguh belajar,terutama sekali bagi yang tidak menemukan orang yang bisa mengajarinya,lalu dia berserah diri kepada Allah dan berjuang siang malam,niscaya dia akan mendapatkan ilmu meskipun tanpa guru.

Wednesday, 23 October 2013

Lectures without lecturer

Do you study math alone just by reading books or do you need a teacher to guide you to solve problem sums? 

Must be with a teacher right .

Same goes to seeking the deen. Without a teacher you'll end up studying with the syaitan. Sedangkan baca al-Quran sendirian pun kita baca salah-salah, apatah lagi menuntut ilmu?!

When some say they listen to scholars saying they don't go classes but instead read a book to gain knowledge, that's because they were born guniness! We weren't born guniness like the scholars these days and back then. We needed to be spoon fed with ilm. 

Just imagine going to class, the first step you exit your house , the angels is already praying for you. 
Just imagine how many steps you take to reach ilm classes and how many times the angels prayed for you.
Just imagine the fishes in the open sea prayed for you too! 
JUST IMAGINE HOW MAY FISHES THATS IN THE SEA PRAYED FOR YOU! 

Masya'Allah . Don't you want to grap those nikmat Allah gave us? 

“Sesungguhnya manusia dalam kerugian”

Allahul musta'an.

-Once bitten twice shy. Twice bitten shame on you. Thrice bitten you're dungu.

May Allah grant you and us his hidayah towards the righteous path. Ameen.

Monday, 21 October 2013

Tuesday


❤️ Asl lah sweet sgt. I was craving to sooo many food these few days and when I see food, I want them. So yesterday while browsing on Instagram, I saw two sisters posted secret recepi chocolate indulgence cake. And my eyes went o.O (aku Nak nie jugak!) 

So I showed my husband and he was like "ohh nie chocolate indulgence" -.,-'

And this morning while he was at work, he send me the picture above ❤️.❤️

(Mcm mane tak Nak syg . Heheheh)
May Allah bless him with goodness and paitence . Ameen .

Saturday, 19 October 2013

Kawan seumur ku

Merindui seorang teman yg tidak boleh terubat dihati.

Semoga Allah menemukan kamu jodoh yg lebih mulia dariku. 

Hatiku harus lepaskan masa lampau. 


*annoying nye Malay aku. Hahaha. But ya, qadarallah for things are not ment to be as how I planned* 

Take good care of yourself dear friend. {Jgn malu2 order brownies from me ok;)}

Wednesday, 16 October 2013

The moment I enter my room and smelled your perfume, I just wanted to cry my heart out cos I really want to speak to you :'( 





P.s: Dear husband , I really missed you dearly :'( only you knew how to comfort me when I'm so down. 

Tuesday, 15 October 2013

Every since I got married, my relationship with my cousins starting to part :'( 

Why??? :'( 





Wanna cry so badly cos I fell so left out:'( 

Monday, 7 October 2013

For you

Assalamualaikum ~

Bismillah .
Alhamdulillah I've survived a month being your wife ! Hehh
And looking for to up coming years with you. 

I don't know how to put all these words in my head currently to form a decent sentences for you. Well here it goes. 

Jazakallahu khair for these past few weeks having to share many things with you. 'Ade yg pahitnye and ade yg manisnye(manis mcm saye)' 
No relationship is a smooth sailing but if both can work it out, insya'Allah khair it'll be at least half smooth? Hehh wallahu a'lam.

Anyway.......haha. I really am amazed how you could be all patient with my nonsencical behavior . Meeeeehehehe~ 

You and your reminder 'ISBIR' (patient). Hehh. And me being very impatient over small or big matter._. Basically everything.

“Isbir Innallaha Ma Assobiriin”
Patience -Allah are with those whom have patience.



You might think I'm some kind of a sick kid who would cry for no absolute reason. Laa. I do have reasons but those words turns out into tears. 
(Well that's how girls express their feeling I guess ? Hahah)

Somehow at my depression moment (which you don't even know when or senang ckp I also don't know when's the time the depressing moment can come), you would suddenly stroke my hand and I would cry. Hahah. Boy, I have an emotional issues! Hahah. 

Alhamdulillah with you around now, I can see my feeling of depression is lesser as I get to let out all the merepek-ness in my head to you. Heheeh . 

“You have emotional problem since young eh?” Haha no I don't . :'D

Insya'Allah I won't have any problem in me unless ........it's pms. Hah! 
Let's get a crazy adorable like me family ! (Hahahah irritating nye aku) 


“Fa sabruun Jameel”
Verily , patience is bliss



& and to my beloved husband , May Allah bless you with patience and may you get the job that you wanted. 
And insya'Allah I will love you each and everyday of our life together. Jazakallahu khair for being my husband and Alhamdulillah ,Allah gave me you. 

Allahumma ameen!
Till then, illaliqa' ❤️

Sunday, 6 October 2013

Who are we to ask an asatizah such qns. We have no rights to even ask even if the qns are as simple as abc. 

These asatizahs are normal people with feelings like us. So don't try to be a terror and ask such stuff which can make one person thinks you that way.

Maybe it's time for us to take a tour to Salam media and get " Adap-Adap menuntut ilmu" book and by Allah's will, this can totally change one's life after reading them. 





Well, basically I'm feeling so stressed out with all the things that is happening currently. And I can't keep my head focus on one objective. May Allah eases our affairs. Ameen thumma ameen. 

اللّهُمَّ رَحْمَتَكَ أَرْجوفَلا تَكِلني إِلى نَفْسي طَرْفَةَ عَيْن، وَأَصْلِحْ لي شَأْني كُلَّه لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أنْت

O Allah , I hope for Your mercy . Do not leave me to myself even for the blinking of an eye (i.e. a moment) . Correct all of my affairs for me . There is none worthy of worship but You

*and I'm excited for her~* 

Saturday, 5 October 2013

Period

It's annoying how you're still young but yet you call your husband 'husband' instead of boyfriend. 

HAHAHAAHAH! Ape kau bbl syaf. Shut up lah. K dah bye .

Tuesday, 1 October 2013

Imaam Abu Haatim ibn Hibbaan رحمه الله said:
"Intelligence is the remedy of the hearts, the tool of the scholars, the seed for the tilth of the Hereafter, the crown of the believer in the worldly life, and his readiness for any calamity. Whomever lacks intelligence, then gaining power shall never increase him in honour, nor shall wealth ever exalt him."
Rawdah al-`Uqalaa [p.56]


Via tumblr

Wednesday, 25 September 2013

Diseases of the hearts & their cure

Assalamualaikum ~

"...Indeed there is in the body a piece of flesh which if it is sound then the whole body is sound, and if it is corrupt then the whole body is corrupt. Indeed it is the heart."

Bismillah , insya'Allah im gonna start reading this book given by our lovely sisters. jazakillahu khair . And insya'Allah may this book bring benefits to me and may I be in the state of istiqomah in reading knowledgable books. Ameen..


And to my observant stalkers (heheh, jgn maraaaah~) , I've no updates abt my marriage yet lah. Hehh. Don't know what to say abt us yet. Heheh. But Alhamdulillah everything is in good conditions. Just that I'm getting fatter each day, THIS IS CANNOT! (Really need to tone down on the consumption of food now. Hahaah ,like that's gonna happen right. Ok tet) 

Anyways sidetrack a little bit; 

Today I spent my afternoon with my lovely sisters, Nilam, Adilah and Sarah ! 

Went to La Marelle Cafe for lunch and the price was ....... 0.o (Sakit mata Cek) but the food is awesome! (Don't forget to say masya'Allah, hehh ,nilam remind us to say this for everything that we sees or praising something good)

Walked ard Arab street to look for Sarah wedding fabrics for nilam to sew for her. * masya'Allah! Can't believe she's getting married in a month time! May Allah eases her affairs!! Ameen! *


And as soon as the clock strike 3.30pm, well not really 3.30pm, hahah, my husband came to fetch me home . Hehehe. Was a little surprising but yeyy! Happy to see him😁 

Well that's abt it, insya'Allah will update more on my perkahwinan life Alrt dearest ppl. 

Till then, illaliqa' ❤️

P/S: my husband was kinda jealous when I send him the pic of the cakes, plus he was shocked with the price when I told him how much we've spent. Hahahahah! 

Monday, 23 September 2013

Shirk al-Asghar does not remove a person from Islaam:
 
بـسـم الله والحـمـد لله والـصلاة والـسـلام عــلى رسـول الله، وبـعـد
Allaah تعالى said:
﴿إِنَّ اللَّـهَ لَا يَغْفِرُ أَن يُشْرَكَ بِهِ وَيَغْفِرُ مَا دُونَ ذَٰلِكَ لِمَن يَشَاءُ﴾
{Verily, Allaah forgives not that partners should be set up with him in worship, but He forgives except that (anything else) to whom He pleases} [Surah al-Nisaa’ (4): 48]
Shaikh Ibn Baaz رحمه الله said:
The one who commits Shirk al-Asghar (minor Shirk), if his good deeds outweigh (the bad deeds), it is hoped that they (the good deeds) will remain. As for the verse, then the obvious is that it refers to Shirk al-Akbar (only).
Source:
 الفوائد الجلية من دروس الشيخ ابن باز العلمية (ص 23)
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The Shaikh رحمه الله was asked: Does Shirk al-Asghar removes the person from Islaam?
Answer: Shirk al-Asghar does not remove a person from Islaam. Rather, it decreases the Imaan and negates perfect Tawheed which is required from a person.
So if a person recites (the Qur’aan) for showing off or he gives charity for showing off, then his Imaan decreases and weakens and he has incurred a sin while doing this act, but he is not judged as a Kaafir.
[Majmoo` al-Fataawa Ibn Baaz (8/394)]
Summary:
1. Only that action in which Shirk al-Asghar has happened will be effected.
2. Instead of reward, sin will be recorded for him.
3. His other good deeds will not be effected, in-shaa Allaah.
4. His Imaan will decrease and weaken.
5. His Tawheed will not be perfect.
6. He is still upon Islaam.
7. Tawbah is required from him.
8. The person should not treat this as something insignificant, as small drops of water together make an ocean.


Taken via tumblr - path of the salaf

Tuesday, 17 September 2013

زوجي

Assalamualaikum ~

So it's been a week since I've been married. Alhamdulillah. And my husband ,ilham and I, are more than happy to be together. Heheh. 

It was hard the first time as we nvr knew abt each other background . I face challenges on how to adapt with a stranger on your bed the next morning and tolerating each behaviour. 

Was it a struggle? yes it was. With us disagreeing on things and Alhamdulillah after a week of marriage, we both got ourselves a conclusion to make this marriage works! 


It's a lot of work, but insya'Allah as the days goes by, our family will be a happy annoying loving family. Heheh.


"His lameness and his ridiculous is my lameness and ridiculous" ❤


Till then, to be continue , illaliqa' ❤

Friday, 13 September 2013

.………awkwardly

Totally speechless abt everything. 

When negative thoughts runs wild in this head, and positive thoughts running pretty low. Allahul musta'an. 

Only Allah knows what's in my heart and head speaks. Allah knows best. 

Monday, 9 September 2013

Honeystar

Assalamualaikum ~ 

This may be a little sad but here's to a little shoutout to RS girls. 

Bismillah. 


Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh darlings, so ya I'm officially someone's wife(Alhamdulillah). And first and foremost, I sincerely apologise if ever I did hurt any one of you unintentionally . My kecohness cannot maintain lah . Heheh. 

And currently things might be a little different now. I won't be able to spent lots of time with you all especially with the ones I'm pretty close with :'( I love you all for the sake of Allah and nothing can replace you girls, masya'Allah ! I nvr had friends like this and Alhamdulillah Allah sent me to you girls. Will treasure all the moment how we all spent time together and insya'Allah we'll gather again as Riyadhus Salihat in Jannah ❤

*to 'Adilah, 

Assalamualaikum adilah, :') before I start, I want to say jazakillahu khair for everything ! From the first moment you introduced me abt my husband , and you were there during the taaruf, and the meeting with the mom, also my khitbah and more of it. I truly truly treasure you most cos you have been by my side since the beginning till the day I am married. Masya'Allah ! *ok I can't stop crying. Hope my husband don't wake up hearing my ugly cries* 

You were there when everyone left right after they kecoh2 amek gambar, looking at you, it's like so unbelievable to say goodbye. I couldn't ask for more but only you. You're been a wonderful sister to me. And you're always there to listen to all my awful crap and misery. 

And when the time is right, insya'Allah I'll try my fullest to be by your side , insya'Allah ! Me love you many many lah jack. Heheh. Insya'Allah the egg will nvr forget the avocado ❤❤ 

*to Kartini,

Assalamualaikum tahfiz mate ! 
First of all I'd like to say I LOVE YOU LAH CAT! Heheh. So many memories with you during tahfiz and also while on the way back. And the advices you always share. 

"Every diffuculties there is ease" 

Insya'Allah I'll not forget you lah k. Hahah. I'll still see you in tahfiz classes and pls pls motivate me k darling . Don't say cannot to me. Nnt I cry tau. Heheh. Whatever it is I still love you lah! ❤ 


And to other girls who have been supporting me all the way and sesiape yg dah engage tu, semoga Allah mempermudahkn urusan kalian. Ameen thumma ameen . Jazakumullahu khair lovelies! ❤❤

A doa for you guys before I take my leave , 

أَسْتَوْدِعُكُمُ اللهَ الَّذِي لا تَضِيعُ وَدائِعُهُ

I leave you in the care of Allah , as nothing is lost that is in His care

Ahmad 2/403, Ibn Majah 2/943. See also Al-Albani, Sahih Ibn Majah 2/133



Ok, shall go off now, hehe. Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh !

Till then, illaliqa' ❤

Monday, 2 September 2013

Part 2

Assalamualaikum ~

"Dah nak jadi pengantin Abeh bace Quran menglabar pulak!"- Kak fadhillah and ustaz Ali 

Hahahah! While reading the Quran , my mind was concentrating at the first half of the page, but upon reaching the 2nd half, my mind was abt my wedding! Hahaha. 

I'm left with 4 days till my wedding! Subhanallah ! 
*excited plus scared at the same time*

-6 months ago
Right after the engagement, everything changed. In a good way of cos! Hahah

We went through the counselling , discussing on houses and Walimah, registration for our marriage . Masya'Allah. 

Alot of good things (also bad at times) came ever since he appeared in our lives. Alhamdulillah . Allah sent me a man with knowledge which insya'Allah can guide me towards the manhaj and toward Jannah. 

As the days getting closer and closer, I felt so relief that I'm marry him . Not just marrying him , but building up our next generation together. Marrying him for the sake of Allah and him marrying me for the sake of Allah. Masya'Allah. 

Looking forward for a beautiful and fruitful future for the both of us, khair insya'Allah. 


Till then, do pray my wedding goes smoothly on ladies! illaliqa' ❤


P/S: can't say I love you yet lah. Hahaahh. Dah nikah baru can k. Hahah. 

*just hope I won't vomit or rumble in my tumble on my nikah day


Sunday, 1 September 2013

Pre marriage issue

Pesanan daripada seorang ibu;
"Istiqomah di atas al-Quran & Sunnah."

Allahul musta'an . I must have gone overboard with all the 'my dream wedding day' till I forgot the ruling in Islam on the day of your nikah/Walimah. 

May Allah increase us in knowledge and may we be on the straight path. Allahumma ameen.

Putting on thick makeups won't make you pretty even on your wedding day but you'll be categories under "TABBARUJ". 

The ulama' has emphases on the topic tabbaruj. It's clear and yet we (the sisters) still choose to be westernize. Allahul musta'an. 

May He keep us away from going back to the jahiliyyah days thinking our wedding gonna be grand. 


May this video benefit each one of you who'll be having their nikah/Walimah in the later time. Khair insya'Allah.

Sunday, 25 August 2013

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http://benefits4assalafiyoon.wordpress.com/2013/08/25/a-beautiful-read-please-read-in-shaa-allaah-good-manners-in-dealing-with-the-ignorant/

After a person turns away from the company of those [ignorant associates], and he turns to the company of those who are absent in person – but whose bounties and good influence continue to exist in the world, he would then inquire a new zeal and a new direction, and he would become stranger among the people – even if he be a relative or a close acquaintance.

This would make him a dear stranger to people. He can clearly see the obscurity that they suffer, but they cannot see the splendor which he enjoys. He excuses them as much as he can, while enjoining and advising them to do good with all of his power. Thus he looks at them with two eyes:

- With one eye, he recognizes Allah’s commands and prohibitions. Based off this, he advises or warns them, and befriends and disowns them, giving them their rights and requiring his.

- With the other eye, he recognizes Allah’s Decree and Measure. Based on this, he sympathizes with them; he makes du’a (supplications) for them; he asks Allah (ta’ala) to forgive them; and he seeks excuses for them in matters that do not involve violation of Allah’s commands and His Shar’ (Allah’s Divine Law). He engulfs them with kindness, compassion and forgiveness, heeding to Allah’s command [to His Messenger (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam)]:

“Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish.” [Al-A'raf (7):199]

If a person abides by this ayah, it would suffice and cure him. It calls for:

- Good manners in dealing with people: by forgiving them and showing them compassion to the limits of one’s character and nature.

- Fulfilling Allah’s rights in people by enjoining what is good, which applies to matters that the minds attest to their goodness and merit, based on what Allah has commanded.

- Avoiding their evil: to ward off the harm resulting from their ignorance, without trying to avenge himself.

How else can a person attain perfection? And what policy and behavior can be better in this world than this? If a man tries to consider every evil reaching him from people (I mean a true evil that results in a loss of honor before Allah (ta’ala)), he will find that it arises from neglecting one or more of these three matters. If he abides by them all, then whatever is inflicted on him by people will be good, even if it appears to be evil. Only good can result from enjoining good, even if it be encased in a situation of evil and harm. Allah (ta’ala) said;

“Verily! Those who brought forth the great slander [against A'ishah (radiallahu 'anha)] are a group among you. Consider it not a bad thing for you. Nay, it is good for you…” [An-Nur (24):11]

And He addressed His Messenger (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) by saying:

“So forgive them, ask Allah to forgive them, and consult them in the affair. Then when you have taken a decision, put your full trust in Allah.” [Al 'Imran (3):159]

This ayah instructs the Messenger (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) to fulfill Allah’s rights and the people’s rights. When people do wrong, they would either be violating Allah’s limits or harming His Messenger personally. If they harm the Messenger (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), he should respond by forgiving them. But if they overstep Allah’s limits, then he (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) should ask Allah (ta’ala) to forgive them and to soften their hearts. Also, he (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) should extract their opinions by consulting them, because this tends to make them more obedient and willing to advise. Once he forms his decision, he should seek advice no more, but rather put his trust in Allah and go forth to fulfill what he decided, for Allah loves those who trust Him.

[By Imam Ibn al-Qayyim al-Jawziyyah (rahimahullaah) - Ar-Risalat ut-Tabukiyyah]