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After a person turns away from the company of those [ignorant associates], and he turns to the company of those who are absent in person – but whose bounties and good influence continue to exist in the world, he would then inquire a new zeal and a new direction, and he would become stranger among the people – even if he be a relative or a close acquaintance.

This would make him a dear stranger to people. He can clearly see the obscurity that they suffer, but they cannot see the splendor which he enjoys. He excuses them as much as he can, while enjoining and advising them to do good with all of his power. Thus he looks at them with two eyes:

- With one eye, he recognizes Allah’s commands and prohibitions. Based off this, he advises or warns them, and befriends and disowns them, giving them their rights and requiring his.

- With the other eye, he recognizes Allah’s Decree and Measure. Based on this, he sympathizes with them; he makes du’a (supplications) for them; he asks Allah (ta’ala) to forgive them; and he seeks excuses for them in matters that do not involve violation of Allah’s commands and His Shar’ (Allah’s Divine Law). He engulfs them with kindness, compassion and forgiveness, heeding to Allah’s command [to His Messenger (sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam)]:

“Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the foolish.” [Al-A'raf (7):199]

If a person abides by this ayah, it would suffice and cure him. It calls for:

- Good manners in dealing with people: by forgiving them and showing them compassion to the limits of one’s character and nature.

- Fulfilling Allah’s rights in people by enjoining what is good, which applies to matters that the minds attest to their goodness and merit, based on what Allah has commanded.

- Avoiding their evil: to ward off the harm resulting from their ignorance, without trying to avenge himself.

How else can a person attain perfection? And what policy and behavior can be better in this world than this? If a man tries to consider every evil reaching him from people (I mean a true evil that results in a loss of honor before Allah (ta’ala)), he will find that it arises from neglecting one or more of these three matters. If he abides by them all, then whatever is inflicted on him by people will be good, even if it appears to be evil. Only good can result from enjoining good, even if it be encased in a situation of evil and harm. Allah (ta’ala) said;

“Verily! Those who brought forth the great slander [against A'ishah (radiallahu 'anha)] are a group among you. Consider it not a bad thing for you. Nay, it is good for you…” [An-Nur (24):11]

And He addressed His Messenger (sallallahu ‘alaihi wa sallam) by saying:

“So forgive them, ask Allah to forgive them, and consult them in the affair. Then when you have taken a decision, put your full trust in Allah.” [Al 'Imran (3):159]

This ayah instructs the Messenger (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) to fulfill Allah’s rights and the people’s rights. When people do wrong, they would either be violating Allah’s limits or harming His Messenger personally. If they harm the Messenger (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), he should respond by forgiving them. But if they overstep Allah’s limits, then he (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) should ask Allah (ta’ala) to forgive them and to soften their hearts. Also, he (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) should extract their opinions by consulting them, because this tends to make them more obedient and willing to advise. Once he forms his decision, he should seek advice no more, but rather put his trust in Allah and go forth to fulfill what he decided, for Allah loves those who trust Him.

[By Imam Ibn al-Qayyim al-Jawziyyah (rahimahullaah) - Ar-Risalat ut-Tabukiyyah]

Part 1

Assalamualaikum ~


As promised, im gonna share with you how I met my husband-to-be. Hehh!
Bismillah .


It was back in January where im struggling so much at work (kepale otak nak quit je keje tpi takde alasan, so carik asalan nak kahwin. HAHHA). At the same time I ask a sister if she have any contacts of a salafi guy that were single, and she said 'Yes. Ermmm...Ilham.'

It took me a while to consider (ade lah sebab-sebab Nye. haha) until few days later I said 'Ok!'

So this sister ask me to give my father's phone number and she'll pass to her friend and her friend will pass it to him. Not even 3 days, he called my father. ( so brave uh he call. hahhaha!)

Then a week later he came to ta'aruf.

*Im starting to write/type like composition -..-*

I WAS FEELING SUPER NERVOUS THAT I KEPT VOMITTING. HAHAH!
Before he came, I got a good remarks abt him , Alhamdulillah I didn't have to worry abt it much. hehh.

On the February 2nd, he came to our house alone and I remembered him wearing this checkered red coloured shirt with jeans and slippers.

It was quite a long talk till it was time for me to get out of the kitchen and reveal myself (chey reveal ehhhh) . It was super duper awkward and funny at the same time cos my mom was cracking some joke before I stepped out.

The awkward smile plus a 'Hi' (org beri salam, aku ckp hi -..-') .

The awkward 2-3 minutes stares at each other.

The awkward me standing waiting for some signals to go back to the kitchen. HAHA! (I was baking by the way, it was a massive order by my classmate for her brother) And in the kitchen there was this sister that recommended me to him.

And so the day ended and he left.


** to be continued**



Till then , illaliqa' ♥

Assalamualaikum ~ 

So many of them were asking me how I met my future husband. Well insya'allah if nothing go heywired tmr, I'll share with you ladies (or if there's a guy reading, Kirk krik krik) here . Khair insya'allah ! 

Till then, illaliqa'❤

*gosh! I miss starting my blog with a proper Salam and end it with illaliqa'

“He is my fat and ridiculous.” -this means war

& you're my lameness and ridiculous. 

To An unknown friend

If I were given a second chance to change things, I would love to stopped 5 months ago moment. But nothing can be undone. Live has to go forward. And again, I'm going to miss you awkwardly.

Moving on~

“Whatever Allah ﷻ chooses for you is best for you. Learn to put everything into perspective and move on.”

Insya'Allah I'm going to leave all to Allah. Submit to Allah. HE knows what's best for me and I know not. 

اللّهُمَّ رَحْمَتَكَ أَرْجوفَلا تَكِلني إِلى نَفْسي طَرْفَةَ عَيْن، وَأَصْلِحْ لي شَأْني كُلَّه لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا أنْت

O Allah , I hope for Your mercy . Do not leave me to myself even for the blinking of an eye (i.e. a moment) . Correct all of my affairs for me . There is none worthy of worship but You.

Another shared by Sis Azza

http://youtu.be/QaeMZkTWqcY

*she's coming my house on the Thursday to bake bake bake ! *

Used to be so slim. But now...........speechless. Double triple fats! Hahaha. This is cannot. Need to loose at least 5kg to get my average weight. Hahah. 

AM thoughts

Time checked : ٢.٢٢ص

I'm sleepy but I can't sleep. Cos I've been thinking that I am getting married in 27 more days. 

My mind is not at ease currently. These feeling don't feel right at all. 

Feeling unsure if this is right or wrong. 

O Allah ! Keep me away from all forms of negetivity thoughts in my head. 

Keep me away from any 3rd parties. Nauzubillah . 

I wanna love my future husband for the sake of Allah and not by force. I've gone through alot of trial along the way. Please make Doa for me and my future husband to have a great life together and have beautiful righteous children. 

May Allah grant me sabrr and may He increases our knowledge . Allahumma ameen. 

إِنّا للهِ وَإِنَا إِلَـيْهِ رَاجِِعُـونَ ، اللهُـمِّ اْجُـرْني فِي مُصِـيبَتي، وَاخْلُـفْ لِي خَيْـراً مِنْـها

We are from Allah and unto Him we return . O Allah take me out of my plight and bring to me after it something better 

Muslim 2/632

*every time when I look back into the past, it always makes me think if I'm doing the right thing by marrying him. May Allah keep me away from the whisper of shaytans. Ameen!*

1st Syawal, Eid

Correct greetings during Eid 

It is permissible for Muslims to greet each other on the day of Eid with specific greetings that have been reported from the sahabah (radiAllahu anhumma) and from amongst the Salaf.

Responding to a question in this regard, Shaykh ul-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (rahimahullah) said:

“As for people greeting each other after the eid prayer by, ‘Taqaballahu minna wa minkum‘ (may Allah accept it from you and us) – it is reported that some of the shahabah practiced it, and the scholars permitted it. However, Ahmad said, ‘I do not initiate saying it to anyone; but if one says it to me, I answer him. This is because responding to a greeting is obligatory, but to initiate the greeting is not a required sunnah, neither is it prohibited: whoever does it it would have an example (from the salaf) and whoever does not would have a predecessor as well.” [Majmoo al-Fataawaa (24/253)]

Al-Haafidh Ibn Hajr Al-Asqalani (rahimahullah) said: “We have related in “Mahaamiliyaat” with a chain of narration that is hasan, from Jabyr ibn Nufayr who said: ‘When the companions of Allah’s Messenger (sulAllahu alaihi wa salaam) met on the day of ‘eid, they would say to each other, ‘Taqaballahu minna wa minkum (may Allah accept from you and us ).” [Al Mahamiliyyat; hasan isnad; see Fath ul Bari 2:446]

Ibn Qudaamah mentioned in al-Mughnee (2/259) that Muhammad ibn Ziyad said: I was with Abu Umamah al Bahili (rahimahullah) and some other companions of the Prophet (sulAllahu alaihi wa salaam). When they returned from the eid, they said to each other, ‘Taqabbalallahu minna wa minkum (May Allaah accept it from you and us).”

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Moderator’s notes:

Let’s stick to the way of the Salaf as-Saalih (our righteous predecessors) during this upcoming ‘eid and greet each other with the saying:

“Taqabballahu mina wa minkum”

Revive the Sunnah of our beloved Prophet (sulAllahu alaihi wa salaam) and our Salaf and stay away from greeting each other with the commonly used phrase “Eid Mubarak” as we do not find it anywhere from amongst our Salaf who used such a term.

As Allah says in the Qur’aan:

“When you are greeted with a greeting, greet back with better than it or return it. Lo! Allah takes count of all things.” [Surah an-Nisa v. 86]

And He ta’ala says:

“Would you exchange that which is better for that which is lower?” [Surah al-Baqarah v. 61]

And when they say my admin skill were weak. Hate to admit but its true, my admin skill were so weak that I screwed up orders.

Basically all the faults is on me as I didn't tabulate properly. And I couldn't cope at all! how depressing it was when I have home stuff to settle and raya preparation, where this year only my mom is doing all the work and here I am at work helplessly watching my mom do ALL the housework.

where the phone just wouldn't stop ringing and I have unsettled business to complete for my wedding which is a month away.
Im not sure if any one of them understood the position im having now. its so depressing that my head hurts too badly . BUT I had no choice but to just let this pain grow inside without no one knowing. i may be complaining with my work staring only at the laptop, but the pressure is there! no shit.

So when today uncle came to deliver items, he did mention what's going on and it kinda punch my chest . YES i do admit my skill are poor. I've nothing to say left when uncle told me so. Was abt to cry when he tried to cover the cover that it wasn't my fault. But hey, i know.... i did a mistake. HUGE one.

This month of ramadhan hasn't been good for me as i didn't get to do any of my ibadah. As i get sooooooo sooooo tired after getting home.

I feel so sad that i couldn't help my mom with anything. And with me going to be a housewife, insya'Allah next year my mom can rest more .

May Allah forgive me for what I've done to my mom. and for not able to istiqomah in the month of ramadhan. Ameen thumma amen.

May allah reward the ppl who've work so hard with the production and sales with good health. Ameen.



*shahidah, so sorry that i had to make you do the shortage because of me, truly sorry shahidah.*










(i just want to cry on someone shoulder right now)

Something sis Azza shared with me

The benefits of marriage should be explained to the youth until they desire it

Posted by Talha Ibn Shahid

SHAYKH FAWZAAN
Taken from: Islaam’s Solution For The Problems Facing Today’s Youth, pgs. 42-44
From among the problems facing the adolescents is that they abstain from marriage. This is a big problem. The youth abstaining from matrimony produces serious harm and no one knows the outcome except Allah. They use the following alleged reasons for abstaining from matrimony.

• Getting married at an early age diverts from studying and getting prepared for the future.

• Getting married at an early age burdens the youth with the responsibilities of providing for his wife and children.

• The most dangerous reason for the youth turning away from marriage is the obstacles which are placed in the path topwards marriage such as extravagant celebrations. And at times the youth can not afford the espense of these celebrations.

In my opinion, this is the biggest reason why these adolescents do not get married. The remedy for this problem is simple if we correct our intentions.

First, it should be explained to the youth that the merits, superiority, and blessings that lied within marriage outweigh the obstacles and difficulties we previously mentioned. There is not anything in this Dunya except there is a trade off. I am not saying that marriage is easy and that there are not any difficulties or hardships. There are difficulties and problems in marriage however; the benefits of marriage outweigh the problems and difficulties that occur. Consequently, these virtues make those difficulties and hardships forgotten. The benefits of marriage should be explained to the youth until they desire it. Marriage helps people protect their private parts and lower their gaze.

The statement of the Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam points to this

“O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power .”

[Hadeeth Saheeh. Collected by Bukhari and Muslim on the Authority of Ibn Mas'ud.]

The Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam specifically instructed the youth to take part in marriage, because they are prepared for it and have the ability.

It is appropriate for the youth to get married at an early age if he or she has the ability and means to do so. Praise is to Allah – currently this is predominately the case. There isn’t any excuse for the youth to leave off getting married. The Prophet sallalahu ‘alayhe wasallam explained the merits of getting married at a young age. Matrimony protects the private parts, because the private parts are very dangerous if unguarded.

Allah subhana wa ta’ala says:

“And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts from illegal sexual acts). Except with their wives and the (women slaves) whom their right hands possess — for (then) they are not blameworthy.”

Surah Al-Ma’arij: 29-30

Matrimony protects the private parts. This is to say that marriage safeguards a person from a great evil. Marriage protects that organ and lowers the gaze. If the youth gets married, he will be delighted. He would not be looking here or there at women or at what Allah has prohibited. As a result, Allah saved this person from the haraam by giving him the halaal. By Allah’s bounty, this person was saved from adultery and fornication.

Second, marriage helps a person to attain tranquility and ease.

Allah subhana wa ta’ala says:

“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.”

Surah Ar-Rum: 21

Whenever the youth gets married his soul is relieved from agitation, anxiety and he has a piece of mind.

“That you may find repose in them.” Surah Al-Furqaan: 74

Verily, the matrimony of this youth is among the reasons for his tranquility and serenity. Accordingly, matrimony is a reason which numerous blessings spring from.

I really can't cope this time. It's so stressing. May Allah eases my affairs. 

اللّهُمَّ لا سَهْلَ إِلاّ ما جَعَلتَهُ سَهلاً، وَأَنْتَ تَجْعَلُ الْحَزَنَ إِذا شِئْتَ سَهْلاً

O Allah, there is no ease other than what You make easy. If You please You ease sorrow